All the pressure for kids to succeed now must be really rough. I suspect parents don’t know the toll their children pay for the pressure to “do their best” and “achieve.” Remembering the relief of playing after school, homework and chores, I would have hated knowing I had to face more pressure in dance class, athletics, and tutoring. As clumsy as I was, it would have been more stressful than school.
Will high-achievers have happier and more successful lives? Are their lives ruined forever if they don’t get into an Ivy-League Schools? The world is full of wonderful truck-drivers, grocery store clerks, hairdressers, and brick-layers. We can’t get by without them. Everybody doesn’t need to CEO of a Fortune Five Hundred or Nobel Prize Winner. Any job that contributes to society is honorable, worthy of respect. We need to help our children develop as healthy, moral, people of values rather extensions of ourselves or shining examples of what we wish we’d done. If your kid is capable of making A’s if he or she works all the time, give them a break. Let them play a little and make some B’s. There’s a lot to be learned about values in playing. It’s not all about you. Everybody doesn’t want to be a star! They need our guidance and support, not impossible demands at the cost of their soul.