Dear Auntie Linda, August 5, 2015

Auntie LindaDear Auntie Linda,  If I cared to own up to it, I think half my family is just trashy, on drugs, or maybe just plain nuts.  My father-in-law has a gambling problem.  He and my mother-in-law adopted a schizophrenic relative’s kids so they could add them to their disability checks, and now they keep trying to dump them on us.  Their daughter lives in a mobile home in their yard and steals everything she can get her hands on.  We are decent people and want no part of this.  What do we do? Disgusted

Dear Disgusted,  If you husband supports you, you can refuse to get involved.  Their problems will just have to be their problems.  Don’t loan money under or baby sit under any circumstances.  Sounds like they are all users and you need to set strict limits.

Dear Auntie Linda,  I was raised in a Fundamentalist Christian Faith that I no longer follow, that required very strict code of dress, no make up, long hair, women submitting to their husband in every way.  I still am in a Christian faith but my parents make no secret of their strong disappointment and disapproval.  What does it take to make people realize adults have the right to make their own decisions.  Pressured

Dear Pressured, it takes an open mind and warm heart.  Nobody knows what’s in another person’s heart.  Auntie Linda