Dear Auntie Linda, My neighbor’s kids are always at my house. The little girl is the same age as my daughter; the little boy is four years younger. Their mother works nights and they just drop their books at home and head straight for my house. Their dad gets home after five, but never hunts them up till way after six. They are at the table for dinner, just like my kids. I have no agreement with the neighbors but don’t mind feeding them, just like any friend who is there at dinner. Should I bring this up with the neighbors? Wondering.
Dear Wondering. Don’t bother, unless you want to feed the whole family. I suspect they know. It’s good of you to feed those kids. If you send them home, it will probably be catch as catch can. They need a good meal and family time, even if it’s borrowed. Auntie Linda
Dear Auntie Linda, My daughter came home with an expensive pair of jeans she got from a friend. I made her give them back. I don’t want her having anything I don’t know was purchased. Is this too suspicious of me? I couldn’t afford jeans that expensive and don’t believe the friend’s mother would allow her daughter to give them away if she had purchased them. I don’t want to take a chance any shoplifting is going on. Worried.
Dear Worried. You are the mother. It is your job to set rules. If you don’t feel those jeans aren’t right for whatever reason, it is your responsibility to make that decision and make sure your daughter knows why. Stick to your guns. Kids need limits. Auntie Linda
Dear Auntie Linda, My daughter is seventeen. Her best friend’s father wants to take her and his daughter to Europe this summer. I could never give her this trip. He says he thinks of her like a daughter. The only problem is, he is twice-divorced and very flirtatious. Should I let her go. She says nothing is going on. Kind of worried.
Dear Kind, I have made a few substitutions in your letter. Use your best judgment. Auntie Linda
Dear Auntie Linda, My daughter is seventeen. Her best friend’s crocodile wants to take her and his daughter to Europe this summer. He is a typical crocodile, dangerous and slippery. He can be expected to behave like a crocodile. Should I let her go?