Dear Auntie Linda, I am a seventeen years old, a senior in high school, make good grades, and have never done anything to make my parents distrust me. We live thirteen miles outside town. Most kids don’t want to come out this far before going out at night. My parents let my brother take the car and go out at night or meet friends in town. I am allowed to use the car in daytime, but they don’t want me driving alone at night in case I break down. I have a cell phone. I don’t always want to stay over with a friend or have a guy drive me home. How can I get them to relax this double standard? Unfair
Dear Unfair, That’s a sticky one. It’s not about trusting you. It’s about protecting you, which you don’t like a bit better, I’m sure. Maybe if you promised to call right when you were leaving they could deal a little better while you could wean them off gently, after all, you will be off at college next year. Auntie Linda
Dear Auntie Linda, As a teenager, I worked in a local store video rental store. While working there, I stole several porn videos, probably worth $600. I feel very guilty about this and would like to make restitution. The owner has since died. I know his elderly widow needs money, but this confession could ruin me if it came out. How can I make this right, without ruining my life? Sorry now
Dear Sorry, Send the lady an anonymous letter with a cashier’s check explaining you wronged her husband and would like to make restitution, asking her to accept it in his honor. She will probably be touched. Auntie Linda
Dear Auntie Linda, My husband I can never agree. We just can’t discuss things. When we are trying to talk about issues, he doesn’t listen to a word I have said. He thinks if he tells me how he wants things done, we have made a decision. How do we solve this? Trying to work things out.
Dear Trying, These things usually work themselves out after fifty or sixty years. Auntie Linda