Ask Auntie Linda, August 16, 2015

Auntie Linda

Dear Auntie Linda,  My husband and I have been married since I was eighteen.  He is stingy, mean, and controlling and always has been.  I would have left him long ago if it hadn’t been for the times we share with our grown children, our only good times together.  My mother left my father after I was grown and I was just devastated.  I have lots of friends and would love to have a good sex partner.  What do I do?  I hate to waste the rest of my life.  Miserable at home

Dear Miserable, Chances are, your adult children aren’t blind.  If you are miserable, there is no need for you to stay with a man who is stingy, mean, and controlling.  What would you tell your child or best friend to do?  Take your own good advice.  Auntie Linda

Dear Auntie Linda,  My girlfriend and I have been together four years and have a three-year-old.  She just gave birth to a daughter.  The timing is wrong for this baby to be mine.  I have not confronted her, since I haven’t made up my mind how to handle this.  I love the baby and want the children to grow up together.  How do I handle this?  Crossed

Dear Crossed,  It’s not a good idea to hide from the truth.  You may get past the problem, but it’s better to sort this out now.  You have trust issues with your girlfriend and may have trust issues with this child later down the road.  Auntie Linda

Dear Auntie Linda,  I am so mortified.  I gave a co-worker, Maggie,  a ride to and from work for years since she didn’t drive.  Every evening, as a matter of routine, we stopped off at the corner grocery for her while I waited in the car.  She was never more than five minutes.  She’d always called ahead so her groceries were bagged.  She just zipped in and out.  Last week, Maggie was admitted to the hospital with a bleeding ulcer and died.  Turns out, she was an alcoholic.  Everybody at work was wondering how on earth she got her beer.  Her husband never let her go anywhere alone.  Turns out, I had to be the source.  I feel so awful.  Her “groceries” were a case of beer.  I was the “one.”  Enabled

Dear Enabled, You did not enable.  You did a friend a kindness in providing transportation to and from work.  You have nothing to feel guilty about.  Auntie Linda

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2 thoughts on “Ask Auntie Linda, August 16, 2015

  1. Josh Wrenn says:

    There are a couple of these that really spoke to me. Also, you left in a version of the last paragraph that was unfinished at the bottom. Great post, one of these I need to pass along to a friend, the other one I need to realize myself.

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