Dear Auntie Linda, My husband and I have been married about six years. Lately I just feel like a housekeeper and Mommy. Our couples class recently had a Sweetheart Banquet. The men were supposed to name their wife’s favorite flower. When it was Jim’s turn, He said, “Well, my mama always liked plain, but I think Becky likes self-rising.” Everybody laughed, but it ruined the night for me. Once again, I felt about as interesting as somebody’s granny. I’ve kept myself nice, but Jim just doesn’t seem to notice. He’s a good man, but has little interest in me or the baby. It’s supper, TV, bed, maybe quick sex once in a while, but no togetherness. He doesn’t need me for a friend. If I try to talk, he says he’s tired, or he’s watching TV. I’m thinking of leaving, but only because there’s no real reason to stay. Nothing Here.
Dear Nothing, Have you told Jim how exactly how dissatisfied you are? It’s possible he thinks you are happy as a dead pig in the sunshine. One person can’t make a marriage. Before you make up your mind to go, be sure to tally up the pros and cons of leaving. It might be worth working out. Jim may think everything is just fine Men and women don’t speak the same language. Auntie Linda
Dear Auntie Linda, An older man lives next door who looks like his thinking might not be that great. His house and yard aren’t well-kept. Quite a scruffy-looking guys are starting to hang around who look suspiciously like they are taking advantage of him. Police officers have made numerous calls to the house, and a time or two, have left with a shady looking character. Today, an obviously drunk man was stumbling around in the front yard with a bottle of wine. I had the baby and my little girl outdoors and didn’t want to encounter him, so I took them back indoors. Not thirty minutes later, the drunk man was on the back porch using an electric saw. I was home alone with the children, so I just locked the doors. What can be done about this situation? Worried
Dear Worried, Sounds like time to make a call to the police if if there is a repeat wit the drunk man and adult protection. If you don’t want to identify yourself, it can be anonymous. Things are getting out of hand. Auntie Linda