Dear Auntie Linda, My husband is a do-it-yourselfer. That sounds like a good thing, except that most of the time, he doesn’t finish the job or things don’t always work smoothly. One time he got in a fender bender and decided to do the body work himself. He never finished the job. He drilled a hole in the fender to pull the dent out then filled the dent in with Bondo. He put the primer on and never got around to the final paint job. For two years, I was stuck driving a bright yellow car with a primed fender. Best of all, when I drove over fifty, the hole in the fender made a high, shrill whistle. It was horribly embarrassing. When he adjusted my brakes, they squealed forever after. Everybody knew when I was headed their way. When he put in a new sink, he got the faucets reversed and tightened the drain so much it cracked. Sometimes things work out fine, but there are dozens of unfinished jobs, or jobs with crazy reminders that he was there. He painted three sides of the house and didn’t get back to the job for a year. I absolutely hate it when he tackles a project, knowing it may not ever be finished or may be wacky. He won’t hire work done, saying he can’t trust anybody to do it right! What in the world is he thinking? Disgusted Wife
Dear Disgusted, I feel your pain. I would hate dealing with that problem. Make a list of his messes. Next time, tell him if he doesn’t get it right or finish the job, you will hire somebody to fix it. Stick with your guns. Auntie Linda
Dear Auntie Linda, We have three children and seven grandchildren. At least one of the children asks us to babysit every weekend. As often as not, they don’t bring everything the children need: diapers, clothes for church, even enough formula. Almost every weekend, we have to make an emergency trip to the store for something. We are tired of running a weekend daycare and their irresponsibility but don’t want to totally miss out on the grandchildren. We just want to have the grandchildren for occasional visits, not devote every weekend to them. Tired Grandparents
Dear Tired. Tell the kids what you told me. No one should be dumping their kids on grandparents. Let them know you are a grandparent, not a child-care service. Stick to your guns. They may get mad, but they’ve got the same clothes to get glad in.