Ask Auntie Linda, October 20, 2015

Auntie Linda

Dear Auntie Linda,  I am seventy-two years old and recently widowed.  I have three sisters and a brother I love dearly, but my older sister is cold, critical, and very difficult to tolerate.  I love her boys and look forward to seeing them at family gatherings.  Both Nona and I were recently widowed.  Her husband was a lovely man and a dear friend to both me and my late husband so we maintained a relationship for his sake.  None of our siblings nor her boys will have anything to do with Nona..  She has recently moved less than a mile from me without telling me till after she bought a house. She also joined my church.  I am very upset dreading the trouble she will stir up with my church friends.  I have struggled to maintain a relationship with Nona but don’t want to deal with her on a regular basis,  How do I tolerate her?  I don’t want to have to move to get away.  Avoiding Trouble

Dear Avoiding, She must be a miserable piece of work if everybody cut her off.  You will have to set strict limits on your relationship.  Your friends will figure her out for themselves.  You are not responsible.  Auntie Linda

Dear Auntie Linda, My mother used my personal information to get credit and has ruined my credit.  I don’t know what to do.  I can struggle to pay her debts or report her for identity theft, for which she will be prosecuted.  I won’t do that.  Mother and I had a good relationship.  I never dreamed she’d do such a thing.  She has begged me not to tell my father.  I feel hopeless, graduating with student loan debt and now my mother’s debt hanging over my head.  I am working now and living at home to save money, but my father has asked me to pay $300 rent.  Under normal circumstances, I would expect to do this.  I believe in paying my way, but can’t afford rent and debt repayment.  I need to stay here until the debt is paid, about three years.  What in the world do I do?  In a Bind

Dear Bind,  You mother betrayed your trust and is now asking you to be complicit in deceiving your father.  This is wrong.  She needs to come clean with your father and make good on her debt so you can meet your responsibilities.  Auntie Linda

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