Ask Auntie Linda, November, 2, 2015

Dear Auntie Linda, at a work function last week I had too much drink and made insulting and caustic remarks about my boss.  He didn’t hear me, but there is no way it won’t get back to  hm what I said.  He is out of the office for the next two weeks, but  I can’t imagine that I won’t be fired.  Even if I weren’t, I don’t know that I would feel I could stay.  Should I just go ahead and quit now before he gets back.  Big Mouth Drunk

Dear Big Mouth, Spend the time before he gets back updating your resume and starting your job search.  Ask for an appointment with your boss.  With your letter of resignation in hand, apologize, making no excuses for yourself, telling him you are prepared to submit your resignation, if necessary, instead of waiting for termination. Depending on your past performance and your value to the company, it is possible there might be a miracle and this will blow over.  Consider not drinking.  Auntie Linda

Dear Auntie Linda, My mother is eighty-two and in poor health.  She has given my sister and brother a considerable sum over the years.  I have never asked her for anything.  I recently asked her to make a will and reminded her of her gifts to my siblings.  She got angry and accused me of trying to rush her to the grave and get her money.  I would like an equal share with them.  Was I wrong?  Left out

Dear Left Out,  You were right that she needs to make a will.  Everyone should.  It is up to her how she leaves her money.  There is no way to anticipate what a person might do.  Auntie Linda