Dear Auntie Linda, I am a senior in high school, the oldest of eight children, the youngest a set of three-year-old twins. Mom is pregnant again. I come from a very eligious family and have always had to help take care of my younger brothers and sisters and help mom in the house. I never got to take part in sports or any extra-curricular activities because Mom said she couldn’t do without me. I won an engineering scholarship to a university out of state. It has always been my dream to be an engineer. My parents say I cannot go off to college with the new baby coming. I need to take classes at the community college since I am needed more than ever. I love my parents but don’t feel this is my responsibility. Would I be wrong to defy them and go on.? What do I do? Honor thy father and mother.
Dear Honor. It is good that you have been helpful as long as you have. One child’s well-being should not be more important than another. The children are your parent’s responsibility, not yours. You need to make a life for yourself and let your parents be responsible for their own children. They may get mad, but they have leaned on you long enough. Auntie Linda
Dear Auntie Linda, I had no idea my wife was having an affair. Tragically, she died after giving birth. The baby Is obviously biracial. The DNA test shows I am not the biological father. I have no idea who the father is. Our four-year-old daughter is devastated at the loss of her mother and in love with the new sister she had been so looking forward to. I am still reeling with shock at my wife’s sudden death and now the knowledge of her betrayal. I don’t feel I can snatch this baby out of my daughter’s life, too. My wife’s sister wants to adopt the baby, but lives in another state. Legally, the baby is mine. My parents live just around the corner. I will need help should I keep the baby, but they want nothing to do with it. What would be best for both girls? Need help.
Dear Needs Help. A baby is just a baby. You don’t owe anyone explanations about the child’s parentage. There are many single parents raising children. Examine your heart and make your decision based on the needs of you and your daughter(s). This is your daughter’s sister. Your parents feelings aren’t the issue. Auntie Lnda